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Dealing with future goals and life decisions

9/14/2015

I had a lot of time to think about my future goals - I am at a strange point in my life, when I am still trying to figure out who I am and who I want to be. I know at 25 years old it should be already clear to me, but I keep struggling and changing my mind. I don´t know what it is - things change and so do my goals - is that bad? I guess it is just life. How do you handle life changing decision and setting new goals?

This is more of a personal post, so I guess you are not going to get a lot of useful information here - sorry about that :) But I think it is important to see other people struggling with the same problems and not make everything seem just peachy - we al have problems and crazy thoughts, am I right? So I guess if I am writing about happy things, I will be honest about my issues as well - at least try to be as honest as I can.

Lately I have been a 50% go with the flow person and 50% stick to the plans person. But life always suprises me and things just change. 4 months ago I found out I was pregnant and I had to reasses my life right then and there - what does adding a baby in the mix mean to us as a family? What does it mean for my career and job goals? It was clear - I wanted this baby so bad and everything else came second. Me and my partner knew we wanted to stay together as we have been living together for a while now, so the choice was easy - we are happily expecting a little boy. But we wanted to move in another country and get jobs there - now this is not happening for a year. We chose to have our baby in a stabil enviroment, with a steady income, surrounded by family and friends. But we wanted our careers so bad before - now they come second. During my pregnancy I have learnt I love to sew for my little with my existing love for design and blogging - so I am now thinking I would love to continue doing that and starting my own business. Being a Jounalist at some magazine or TV station for current event seems so doll in comparisement to making my own business with my hobbies work. Is that just a temporary feeling? I have no idea. I decided I am making this my priority now and I will reasess my situation when my baby outgrows his newborn stage. And I am finishind my Masters Degree in a short few months, during my pregnancy. This is the plan for now.

How do you guys deal with life changes? Do your goals change often? I have written about figuring out you goals already and I have been doing all those things to make me feel at ease with my life. The thing is - there is no right or wrong path in life, there are only decisions that make our life go in some direction. Thats what makes me feel calm when I am freaking out about my future. Plus, I am so happy about my baby, it is crazy! He is the best thing that happened in my life, in our lives.

M.

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My First Job and tips on how to survive a crappy one

8/17/2015

I always appreciate good suggestions for my blog posts and I was very happy when The Ladders introduced me to an writing prompt about first job experiences. It was a fun time in my life, I was still in high school and I love all of the anecdotes I can talk about now because of my job back then. I think everyone has a cute or funny story about the time they have entered the workforce for the first time.

I will also give you a few tips on how to survive a crappy job you might have or will have in the future. I think most people get trough a few crappy jobs before they land their perfect one, because of the learning process, experiences and general life lessons. It is all good - you have to learn what you want from your job and how hard are you willing to work for your lifestyle. It is all about you - I cannot tell you doing which job you will feel fulfilled and happy at. Figuring out your own path is the beauty of life.

I wanted to get a job when I was 14, but I could not get one until I turned 15. Or was it 16? No, I think 15 is the age limit.. We were struggling at home and it was hard to live in a single parent family. During one winter we were sleeping in our living room near the fireplace, because we had no heating in our house. It was hard for us kids, but I cannot imagine how my mom must have suffered at that time. I could cry if I think about how sad and alone she must have felt. We had a few great family and friends that helped out a lot, but we never really asked for help. I still believe most of them still don´t know how hard it really was for us. At times I was showering with cold water in the winter, because I had no time to get to my grandmas apartment to get a shower. It got a little annoying driving back and forth and I just suffered trough it. I want to take a moment to thank my awesome mother who is the strongest women I know! If I will be half that strong of a person one day, I will be just fine. OK, whatever the circumstances were, I really wanted a job. So I got one at our local cultural centre, where I was hanging coats and greeting people when they came to see a show. It is like a theatre, concert hall, movies - all in one. So I was a hostess and I got a few pocket money out of it and I got to see a lot of different shows, concerts for free :D This was the best part - I could watch the performance or relaxed with my friends drinking coffee while waiting for the show to end. A cool first job I would say - although the paycheck was so bad, you wouldn´t believe it.

I got sick of hamburgers quickly :)

So for my second first job (a more real job) I was flipping burgers, making hot dog, selling drinks and ice cream at a local burger place. A really small place, where I was all alone for everything - I opened up, cleaned the place, prepared the vegetables, supplies, turned on the radio, handled the register, and closed at 10 PM at night or midnight at weekends. My ex came by a lot to help me close the place up, which was very kind from him. It was hard work, I had a lot of drunk customers, but also a lot of kind ones. I learnt a lot during working there and I stayed for two years (with breaks because I was finishing high school). I earned enough to go on my high school vacation to Greece (the best vacation of my life), get my drivers licence (my mom payed for half), to buy myself new clothes, give my bedroom a nice "young adult" makeover, pay for a three days long vacation for my moms birthday, buy myself a few collage necessities and spent the rest on coffee breaks and parties with friends. In all, a great time of my life. During that time I learnt that this is not the job for me, that I would rather work in writing, journalism, design or art. I am more of an artistic free spirit person, who hates routine and I would be unhappy doing something like that. But I also learnt that I am a strong and capable person, who can take care of her self.

Since the time I have had my first job, 10 years have gone by. At 25 I still don´t have a perfect job for me, but I am getting there. I am writing, designing, painting, making art and loving life. Someday it will all pay off, I am a firm believer that life gives you what you can handle.

So how will you survive a crappy job?

I say go with the flow. Do what you are supposed to, learn and don´t feel sorry for yourself. Don´t look at the clock all the time, waiting for your shift to be over. Do not stress about how little money you are making. Do not get involved in fights and confrontations, if you can avoid them. Do nor slack off. Make new friends, enlarge your circle of acquittance's, seek new career opportunities. Make the most out of the experience, because you can take something good out of it. When you have really had enough, just quit. Go after what you really want. Seek new career opportunities.

How was your first job experience like?

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